Conversation

Today I was with some friends and I realized why some people have unfulfilling conversations.

People are taught to relate to each other in conversation. This makes sense. Find common ground, talk about shared experiences.
They’re doing it wrong.

Instead of being interested in what their partner has to say, some people respond with some event that happened in their own life that kind of relates.

Here’s an example:
“Hey my college had awesome parties!”
“I was in a frat and we threw epic parties too! We used to do all kinds of things.”
These people are not talking to each other. Neither person cares what the other is saying. I have watched two people have entire conversations like this.

A better conversation:
“Hey my college had awesome parties!”
“Oh really? What kinds of things did you guys do?”

It makes a HUGE difference when vibing with others and it gives two people a real connection.

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